In the case of social anxiety, this may include saying no to invitations to do things with people we care about. We might start avoiding a specific social situation, where we previously felt socially judged. However we can quickly find ourselves feeling anxious in similar situations. Before we know it, we have had to dramatically restrict where and what we do socially. And, when we do venture out, our mind is constantly scanning the environment for people who might be judging us harshly.
This makes it difficult to connect and enjoy the company of others when we are so internally focused. Soon, feelings of self-consciousness, humiliation and embarrassment build up. Leaving the social situation to escape the feelings of anxiety brings some short-term relief. However, once intensity of our feelings subside, we are left with the nagging conclusion that we are missing out. Loneliness and social isolation can quickly develop.
